Celebrating Mother’s Day and Father’s Day in the last two months made me think about my own mom and dad. In this video I mention what I learned from them and what I most appreciate about them.
Here in America. We celebrate Mother’s Day in May and Father’s Day in June. And these two holidays have made me think about my parents and what I miss most about them and what I admire in their lives.
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Both my parents, my mom and my dad, have passed away. They’re both dead. My mom died about 28 years ago and my father, almost 14 years ago. They were both very different people. My mother grew up in America, on the East Coast. That means on the coast of the Atlantic Ocean. She and her family lived near Boston. Her dad was an engineer and the family was comfortable, financially. They had enough money. She and one of her brothers went to college.
On the other hand, my father, my dad, grew up in the middle of the country, in Arkansas, and he grew up dirt poor. What do we mean when we say somebody is ‘dirt poor’? That’s the poorest of the poor and out in the country.
His parents, his mother and dad, died when he was young. His dad died first. So, his mother remarried and then she died. And the stepfather, my dad’s stepfather, was lazy and did not want to work. My dad left home at 17 and joined the army so that he could send money home to this lazy stepdad and his younger brother so that they would have something to eat.
What do I remember most about my parents? I’ll start with my mom. One thing I admire about my mom is that she was able to laugh a lot and be silly. It didn’t bother her to be goofy. And I, I like that about her.
She loved people. She loved being around people and would listen really well to them and get their stories. And they would tell her their problems and she would point them to Jesus. She loved having people over to her house, their house, for dinner. And she didn’t worry about the house looking great. She didn’t worry about her food being perfect. She just liked people.
I am like that too. I love people. And I like their stories. I like to find out about them and listen to them. I find people fascinating.
What else do I remember about her? Oh, she loved to read. She read a lot of books and she would write, too. I love to read and I enjoy writing.
Well, what about my dad? I think because my dad grew up poor, he learned to tackle anything. Nothing was a problem. He had what is called a ‘can-do attitude’. If somebody said to him:
“This car is broken, will you take a look?” he would say, “sure!”, even if he didn’t know what to do. He looked at problems as opportunities to learn something new.
I think because he was poor and life was hard, learning was really important to him. So, when I was a child, he would not let me say: “Pop, I’m bored!”
He would say: “Maria, you are not allowed to say that word. There is no reason to be bored. There are so many things to learn and so many books.”
So, he was hungry and he loved to read. He was hungry for knowledge, is what I mean. And he loved to read and he did hard things.
I think that I got from him a willingness, also, to try new things, to be a bit daring and to do hard things and not fear. Does that make sense?
Back to my mom – my mom loved her friends very well. As she grew older, she and my dad would travel to visit her friends. They became very important to her. I’m almost 63 and my friends have become very important to me, too. This is why COVID is so hard. I have friends who live in other states that I would like to see and family too!
My dad didn’t have many friends. He had lots of acquaintances. But he loved his family well! He wrote letters. He called. He would visit family. He sent money to family. He spent time with family. My dad was a great grandpa, meaning he was a super grandpa. He was, he was a wonderful grandpa. He spent so much time with our sons and they have very fond memories of him.
Well, what about you? What do you admire in your mom and your dad? Or what do you miss about them? Or is there another family member whom you miss or has a quality that you admire? Tell me about it. Leave me a comment below this video.
And remember if you want the transcript, the written words, go to my website, www.englishwithoutfear.com and there you’ll find them. Well, that’s it for this episode. I’m Maria. Talk to you next time.
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